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Meet Herbert and Zelmyra Fisher of North Carolina. They have been married 85 years (86 in May) and hold the Guinness World Record for the longest marriage of a living couple and get this…. Zelmyra is 101 years old and Herbert is 104.
The happily married couple teamed up with twitter this Valentine’s Day to answer some relationship questions. Check out their take on finding love, getting through hard times and more. Good read.
1. What made you realize that you could spend the rest of your lives together? Were you scared at all?
H & Z: With each day that passed, our relationship was more solid and secure.Divorce was NEVER an option – or even a thought.
2. How did you know your spouse was the right one for you?
We grew up together & were best friends before we married. A friend is for life – our marriage has lasted a lifetime
3. Is there anything you would do differently after more than 80 years of marriage?
We wouldn’t change a thing. There’s no secret to our marriage, we just did what was needed for each other & our family.
4. What is your advice to someone who is trying to keep the faith that Mr. Right is really out there?
Zelmyra: Mine was just around the corner! He is never too far away, so keep the faith – when you meet him, you’ll know.
5. What was the best piece of marriage advice you ever received?
Respect, support & communicate with each other.Be faithful, honest & true.Love each other with ALL of your heart
6. What are the most important attributes of a good spouse?
Zelmyra: A hard worker & good provider.The 1920s were hard,but Herbert wanted & provided the best for us.I married a good man!
7. What is your best Valentine’s Day memory?
Zelmyra: I cook dinner EVERY day.Herbert left work early & surprised me – he cooked dinner for me! He is a VERY good cook!
Herbert: I said that I was going to cook dinner for her & she could relax – the look on her face & clean plate made my day!
8. You got married very young – how did u both manage to grow as individuals yet not grow apart as a couple?
“Everyone who plants a seed & harvests the crop celebrates together” We are individuals, but accomplish more together.
9. What is your fondest memory of your 85-year marriage?
Our legacy: 5 children, 10 grandchildren, 9 great-grandchildren, and 1 great-great grandchild.
10. Does communicating get easier with time? How do you keep your patience?
The children are grown, so we talk more now. We can enjoy our time on the porch or our rocking chairs – together.
11. How did you cope when you had to be physically separated for long periods of time?
Herbert: We were apart for 2 months when Z was hospitalized with our 5th child. It was the most difficult time of my life. Zelmyra’s mother helped me with the house and the other children, otherwise I would have lost my mind.
12. At the end of bad relationship day, what is the most important thing to remind yourselves?
Remember marriage is not a contest – never keep a score. God has put the two of you together on the same team to win
13. Is fighting important?
NEVER physically! Agree that it’s okay to disagree, & fight for what really matters. Learn to bend – not break!
14. What’s the one thing you have in common that transcends everything else?
We are both Christians & believe in God.Marriage is a commitment to the Lord.We pray with & for each other every day.
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May 8, 2013 at 12:23 pm
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Ali Abdullah
April 28, 2013 at 10:58 pm
Nothing more to be said!
Joe Michaels
April 28, 2013 at 11:00 am
Just beautiful.
Yvonne Thomas
April 27, 2013 at 8:10 pm
Congratulations to this beautiful couple. April 11, 2013, we celebrated our 53rd wedding anniversary. I was only 17 and he was 18. No one expected our marriage to last. He was my first love and best friend. Today, my love has grown stronger and he will be my BFF (best friend forever).
God has blessed us with three children and five grandchildren.
Bobby Maull
April 27, 2013 at 4:05 pm
Wow…what are race..the Black Race African American can show as a model to our people. This is a wonderful article. But more importantly it is a true example of commitment in a one man one woman marriage now matter what race you are. These points are built to last.
Simi
April 27, 2013 at 3:26 pm
Wow this is a great article and what a testimony of God’s faithfulness when we walk in the Spirit!
PJ
April 27, 2013 at 2:35 pm
God has truly blessed their union….I wish I could go back in time and redo my marriage. It only lasted 12 years and one piece of advice I would apply and build on among the many pearls of wisdom stated is ” praying with and for each other daily”
Pat Franklin
April 26, 2013 at 3:30 pm
Wow! This couple is a jewel! Some much love for each other! Lord! Bless me with a man like that with love for me, and longevity!
Pat Franklin
April 26, 2013 at 10:05 pm
I meant “so” much love for each other!
Lisa Myles
April 27, 2013 at 1:28 pm
They have words to live by. I pray to have what they have and a long life.
Minister White
April 25, 2013 at 9:03 am
I am thankful to God for every day I spend with my husband. We have been together for 36 years and I still love him as if we just met when we were 19. Today we are 56 and 57 and sharing all of my adult life with him is the best thing that has happened to me.We had our ups and downs, and every day has not been like Sunday. But through it all we made it. This is a beautiful couple!!!
Michelle Woodburn
April 25, 2013 at 1:58 am
Precious. Priceless. Wisdom at its utmost best! We would all do good to take heed, whether married or not.
J.D. Hill
April 25, 2013 at 1:10 am
I believe whole-heartedly in listening to the voice of experience. We must get advice from those who have done what we want to do or who have been where we want to go.
Real marriage is a heterosexual partnership relationship for life. It requires a whole lot more thought and effort than most folk give it going in in order to stay in.
If you plan to be married for life, take at least a year to prepare for that lifetime journey. Get to know each other and each other’s friends, family, values, and expectations relative to money, children, religion, recreational time, educational and financial goals, care for aging parents, and the like. Discuss everything, especially s*x!
Don’t go into marriage blissful but blind!
donna m
April 24, 2013 at 4:43 pm
How sweet this is GOD plan a lifetime of joy and marrige is for grown folk my pastor says I’m sure no matter what they stuck it out in good and bad God bless this lovely couple
Angela
April 22, 2013 at 4:02 am
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China
April 25, 2013 at 12:01 pm
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April 15, 2013 at 11:05 pm
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Coco
April 15, 2013 at 4:32 pm
God is amazing. He left a rainbow for this beautiful couple. Ladies start being old fashion when it comes to a man. Way to many of us falling for anything. When one respect self, others follow.
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kim
February 19, 2013 at 2:10 am
I just love this beautiful couple!They said the magic words…friendship 1st!AGREE TO DISAGREE…BEND A BIT BUT DON’T BREAK!Wise beautiful advice!
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shawn
January 3, 2013 at 1:24 pm
nope there is a couple in india married 87 years
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Elaine Thomas
November 25, 2012 at 2:34 pm
Congrats and may God continue to bless you all as he has done all these years.
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juan tapia
October 15, 2012 at 3:13 am
Thank you towards happy family well. Hopefully that me and my wife be together for ever where only 20 so let’s pray for how things workout for use so write back juan rosemary for life love u guess please tell me more how to keep. A realationship
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sandra
September 10, 2012 at 10:32 am
Im a single woman, and I have been looking, and dating but nothing yet. This just gave me the support and the courage to keep faith that I will find him one day or he will find me. Being friends first is the most important factor in a relationship. God bless this couple with many more years of love and respect!
Stephanie
August 27, 2012 at 1:37 pm
I love this! I’m getting married at 17 and everyone thinks I’m crazy. They were married when she was 16 and he was 18; they’ve been married 86 years. Why? Because they have God, just like my fiance and I do. So inspiring! I love this!
JembeQueen
April 28, 2013 at 2:59 pm
I noticed everyone skipping over the statement:
‘I cook for my husband EVERY DAY’ – modern women don’t want to hear that. If you husband doesn’t have to go out to eat after work, there are less opportunities for him (and you) to stray.
Keep your man home & learn to COOK FOR HIM!
ME
July 14, 2012 at 11:01 pm
Lord, I know you hear me so my prayer is that I want to be this kind of wife to this kind of husband. The friendship, the love, the bending without breaking, the commitment to forever and divorce not being an option. I want to always find a way to fix it, not throw it away and get another. I don’t want another. I do not want a need to keep the receipt, just in case. I want to be the woman that he wants to come home to and that his home is a place of refuge from the world. Thank you for this couple and the hope that they bring to my heart that this is possible. You said seek you first and all things will be added. I pray that my heart is seeking you and that you grant the desires of my heart to be this kind of woman to my future husband. Thank you.
Not really sure why I ended up writing my prayer here, but if you need to steal it and use it for your own life, please feel free. Maybe that is why I started and didn’t stop until this moment. LOL God has jokes sometimes. Best wishes for this couple and the many that will be encouraged by them when their time comes and those married now fighting to stay married.
lekanme
July 13, 2012 at 9:51 am
if the couple should place mouth on their trials and temptations u ll never doubt their love for one another but love that sit next 2 poverty dont ve happy ending
Donna Dawson
July 4, 2012 at 10:13 am
Beautiful thing. There’s hope for all. Father God blessed their union and I pray He will bless mine.
Olusanjo osho
June 28, 2012 at 1:52 pm
THE COUPLES ARE WORTHY REFERENCE TO THE WORLD.I WISH THEM MORE PEACEFUL AND HEALTHY MOMENT.
zombiesnthechurch
June 28, 2012 at 11:08 am
If you don t take anything else from what they said take the fact that they WORKED TOGETHER….my father said that if two of you are not WORKING TOGETHER—-YOU ARE WORKING AGAINST EACH OTHER…. in their day and time the women did stay in the kitchen and take care of the children that was their job….the man worked outside the home that was his job—-however in todays society both partners should contribute equally to both venues inside the home and outstide….there should no longer be a ‘man s’ job or ‘womans’ job but OUR JOB that way he cant pull rank on her and she can t pull rank on him….but even in the 20th century we find women that are looking for men to rescue them and when he does he makes her his slave and treats her as if she is not equal or to him and she accepts it….basically this couple has exemplified through the years that they have been walking side by side…..think about it ladies in walking side by side with your man it should make it much harder for him to S#&T on you than if you are walking behind him? hummmmm
Robert
June 27, 2012 at 10:49 pm
Shame they brought religion into the story. It ruined it for me. The line “Marriage is a commitment to the Lord” is complete brain wash. It should read “Marriage is a commitment to each other” for loves sake. This ficticious friend angle is annoying. This is why I support equal marriage and that gays should be allowed to marry – it’s for loves sake! Right?
isy
July 27, 2012 at 8:32 am
Its a bigger shame that u have no relationship with ur Maker,or even religion. If u did, then u’ld know how precious marriage is to Him as its meant to be a replica of His relationship with us. You’ld also know that He made it for pple of the opposite s*x.(just look at the human or even animal anatomy pls!).
Robert
August 10, 2012 at 12:25 am
@ISY: I’m guessing you’re a person of color. It’s a shame that you discriminate against gays and equal marriage as it’s no different to the fight your ancestors fought for you to enjoy the rights you have today. Get over it or go the way of the dinosaurs … Oh I forgot your probably don’t believe in them either
calexfo
June 27, 2012 at 3:03 am
This story is a sweet inspiration. May God bless the couple.
Taiwo Mary Daniels
June 26, 2012 at 3:14 pm
A wonderful experience. we are just coming up,myself and daniel do pray for us.
Maude
May 3, 2012 at 8:21 pm
These are beautiful words of knowledge. We thank you for deciding devorce was not an option. Your having become friends first, is the secret to your long lives together along with God’s help. Continue on. God bless and keep both of you.
ramc77
May 2, 2012 at 6:20 am
What a beautiful couple they were, and fabulous advice. So many people give up over stupid things and usually live to regret their hasty decision to divorce.
I have an issue with the people saying it’s all GOD that made this marriage last. It’s not. Stop giving all the credit to god. These two people worked hard at their marriage and they alone deserve the credit for that. Sure, their god may have helped them and comforted them along the way but all the heavy lifting was done by these two people. I hate it when people give god credit for everything great in their lives. Give yourself credit! You deserve it!
isy
July 27, 2012 at 7:42 am
Are u married?,somehow i dont think so and its also obvious u dont believe in God. You think d pple that get divorced,dont try to “work on their marriage”?(i then wonder if all d counselling sessions pple pay thousands of dollars for are fictitious!!). Pple divorce bcos they try to work it out on their own,forgetting that they arent the ones that ‘instituted’ marriage and so need help making it work.
Kmcitsme
April 30, 2012 at 10:33 pm
Its possible….love it, their story made
me smile!
carol
April 20, 2012 at 2:24 am
I love this story. Me & my late husband wanted to grow old together. But i am happy to see such heart-felt stories like this with love, true blessing’s, & God’s tenderness.God bless them!!! Carol
cc
April 20, 2012 at 2:18 am
I love this story. God blessed them. I see the love in them like i had in my late husband which we always wanted to grow old with each other. They look very good & youthful with each other. It is a heart-felt story that i would love to see all couples make this story. I love it. God bless them. Carol
Gary
April 19, 2012 at 4:11 am
Great story to read and inspirational and very practical and wise adivse. They almost all the posts mention God -and so important to have a connection to a higher or greater power than ourselves -even as a couple.I feel that it’s important to say that a story like this should not dampen or shame the spirits of others who may not have been so fortunate as the Fishers. All our stories are significant@
Robin John
April 14, 2012 at 5:13 am
WHAT A ROLE MODEL FOR ALL TO FOLLOW. SURELY THE LORD IS THE FOUNDATION OF THIS MARRIAGE. ON CHRIST THE SOLID ROCK I STAND, KNOWING ALL OTHER GROUND IS SINKING SAND. GOD HATES DIVORCE, ACCORDING TO HIS WORD. TWO ARE BETTER THAN ONE. A THREE FOLD CORD CANNOT BE BROKEN. THE LORD BLESS THIS PRECIOUS COUPLE FOR THEIR EXEMPLARY MARRIED LIFE FOR THE WORLD TO FOLLOW. MAY THE LORD JESUS BE THE FOUNDATION OF MARRIAGES. THEN IT WILL BE IN GOOD STEAD. GLORY TO THE LORD.THANK YOU LORD JESUS FOR SUCH A COUPLE STILL FULFILLING YOUR PURPOSE IN THEIR LIFE. PSLAM 92:12-15
Shogo
March 22, 2012 at 7:47 pm
BELIEVE LOVE IS OUT THERE!GOD HELP MY MY MARRIAGE TOO.I WILL ALWAYS LOVE U MY LOVE.
Denise
March 22, 2012 at 7:49 am
Thank you H & Z for sharing your amazing story. You definitely have TRUE LOVE…God Bless! Denise, an admirer
OPEZy
March 22, 2012 at 3:22 am
These is just a through example of true love,I wish I could enjoy this privilege
isaac ghosh
March 21, 2012 at 6:38 am
great article. may God bless each one who honours Him.
Ashlee & Angela
March 19, 2012 at 3:19 pm
Such an amazing story. I hope my wife and I can beat their record someday!! It just goes to show that a selfless marriage is a happy one. Always put your partner first!!
Bob
March 19, 2012 at 10:55 am
Dear Herbert and Zelmyra,
Your story is an inspiration to folks like us! The Lord has blessed us with 36 happy years together (so far)! We probably won’t have as many years together as you two, but we want to thank you for the example you have set, and for giving honor to the Lord! I wish we could meet you in person. Blessings to both of you!
Bob
lisa marie
March 18, 2012 at 4:29 pm
It is a blessing to know that with God first in your life nothing is impossible.
D H
March 17, 2012 at 8:28 am
Remember God gives you a wife to love as Christ loved the church. You are joined together as one flesh. But, most couples forget that God is who made us, and to God we will return, faithful or not. Your wife is a gift treat her as you would the most expensive gift given to a man, and she will return with her love.
James Finley
March 16, 2012 at 4:51 pm
An excellent example of a relationship rooted in Christianity and framed by friendship!
Stew913
March 15, 2012 at 10:54 pm
This is just beautiful….it brought tears to my eyes. So much one can lean from these to great people. God Bless
kingsley orok
March 12, 2012 at 6:06 am
i luv this, i pray 4 them, that God shuld strengthen them more, n couple shuld learn from this.
Paul N Hanson
March 11, 2012 at 9:57 pm
Very inspiring spiritual example’s!!!
Derek Smith
March 10, 2012 at 11:02 pm
This is awesome and is soo much the truth about having God & Jesus in your life as They are the best thing ever! Soo wish & want my future ladylove to love, honor, respect & worship Them as well as then we’ll die together and that’ll be ever so very beautiful!!! :-}
Grady
March 10, 2012 at 11:01 am
Now thats what up. Thats what i want in life. To get a wife and for us to be together forever. To many its just a dream but after reading this I know it can be reality. I wish them the best and cant wait for the day that i can be in there shoes.
John Vaughn
March 9, 2012 at 2:38 am
My mother always used to say, “No one should grow old alone”. Nobody knows the troubles these two have seen, but once again Mom, your wisdom has shone through. By God’s good graces these two have presented one of the reasons for all the good life & love have to offer. God bless the both of them.
Janet Williams
March 9, 2012 at 1:47 am
God Bless You both, love it. The most important advice transcendent of the love of God,Christianty,respect. Marriage is not a contest don’t, keep score ,so profound.Thanks for sharing ur life experience with us. I pray that Im Blessed with a percentage of that love in this life
Nathaniel Jones
March 8, 2012 at 9:38 am
a true testament of love…
senar
March 6, 2012 at 8:37 pm
what an experience. Putting GOD first and he will make you best of friend.
unekwuojo
March 6, 2012 at 7:03 pm
what a fulfilment of God promise on this one,indeed Gods word must surely come to pass.I luv to meet them face toface bcus they are wonderful with wonderful experience….
Anne Walker
March 6, 2012 at 2:32 am
I think you are both amazing. You have my respect,admiration and Christian love.Thank you for being good ‘role modles’ x*x
Carol Jones
March 6, 2012 at 1:32 am
Thanks for sharing great advice. We have only been married 15 years in Sept. Your marriage is your greatest asset in life why not work on it each day!
Bekah Brinkley
March 6, 2012 at 1:02 am
Hello!
I work for a non-profit based out of Tampa Florida called Family First (www.familyfirst.net) and we would love to re-publish this article with your permission. Would you kindly grant permission for us to re-publish? If so, please let me know how you would like us to cite you as our original source.
Blessings,
Bekah
JC
March 5, 2012 at 10:46 pm
Well, my husband and I only have forty six more years to go. Hee-Hee! Of course, God willing!
Othole Mukama
March 5, 2012 at 5:02 am
God is real. I wil hav such a Marriage. Cynthia i love u.
ME
July 15, 2012 at 12:20 am
For some reason, God, I clicked on your name to see if there were pictures of your facebook and where you were from since I knew it was not the US where I am, and I was so elated when I saw what I saw!! I checked you out on You Tube and I love your songs. I love all kinds of music so to hear Kenyan gospel was really beautiful. God makes a way sometimes for us to learn things we never would have known. A chance coincidence of wanting to see pictures and now I have great music to add to my collection. Thank you so much and years from now, they will be interviewing you and Cynthia and how you made it through.
hyacinth M. Graham
March 5, 2012 at 5:00 am
Long Life and Long marriage is a testament to many things. Compatability and commitment to staying together is hard won, and requires alot of give and take. We don’t have any details of how they handled differences. Nor do we know enough about their personalities. She apparently did not work which is an added stress on marriages today. It is an achievement never the less but each couple has to find their own way and deal with their special circumstances. There are many things that can interrupt or destroy a marriage. It’s not for sissies.
Milagros
March 4, 2012 at 6:39 am
God bless you. Or rather, you have truly been blessed by God!
I agree when you say, “friends” first, communication and respect being most important in a relationship….Once that is lost, the rest will come tumbling down.
May the Lord continue his blessings on you both!
CM_Writer
March 4, 2012 at 12:03 am
I’m not sure who posted this, but Mr. Fisher passed away February of 2011.
The Fishers gave this advice in 2010. http://www.examiner.com/women-s-relationship-advice-in-charlotte/he-s-104-and-she-s-102-herbert-and-zelmyra-fisher-have-been-married-85-years
It still rings true today though
debra hester
March 3, 2012 at 11:01 pm
Oh what a ride it is to stay married for so many years.I’ve been married for 38. My children have such respect for us for being together. We teach our children through our actions, GOD BLESS YOU TWO.
Capuchina
March 3, 2012 at 7:34 am
This goes to prove “Marriage takes three”, you both with God to guide and bond you is the strength of your marriage.
May God bless your union evermore!!
Capuchina
Lel
March 3, 2012 at 12:54 am
it’s a beautiful story, and truely inspiring. doing the math, they got married at 15 & 18. that doesn’t happen anymore, at least not here. i got married at 20, and so far people have called me crazy, stupid or both….it’s been more than 5 years now, and we are still as much as love, if not more than when we started. i hope we make it to at least 50, but 86 is awesome! i consider myself blessed to make it this long, but they are truely blessed people to have had their love as long as they did.
Audra Marie
March 2, 2012 at 5:51 pm
Beautiful!
Michael Pierre
March 2, 2012 at 5:47 pm
Wow,
Great example of lives living for the Lord together.
Shawna Marie
March 2, 2012 at 4:18 pm
Lots of wisdom and great advice. It all seems real simple: Love, honor, trust, respect, commitment and follow through. Friendship before marriage is a good start.
carol belardo
March 2, 2012 at 2:38 pm
Great relationship. I wish our marriage will also last that long but people were trying to ruin our relationship. But thanksGod my husband still chooses me and our children.
Tami
March 2, 2012 at 10:58 am
They are truly the poster couple for marriage. I admire them soo much, bcuz these days you don’t see that ppl stay together that long. I am young, and been with my hubby since I was 14. Married @ 21, and this is our 13th year of marriage. I hope and pray that we last as long ad their marriage. I am truly impressed and plancto use some of that advice and incorporate into my marriage. Things has been working for us this far and putting some of this positive advice into my life will absolutely make it stronger
p. campbell
March 2, 2012 at 8:18 am
Setting the STANDARD for others to follow. God always gives us a witness to what His standards are! Blessings
Amos Gurung
March 2, 2012 at 7:00 am
Amazing love story, I also believe faithfulness, trust and commutation is very essential for long lasting love
LEWa
March 1, 2012 at 10:23 pm
This lv is unbreakable
Its bound in heaven,ope youths n’even the married can learn 4m dis lovely pple.
God bless em.
Princess Goodridge
March 1, 2012 at 9:16 pm
Yes!! I love this.. I hope one day I have a Marriage that will last as strong& long as this…
Marie Lambert
March 1, 2012 at 8:32 pm
What an inspiration…definitely something to aspire towards. A lovely couple!
melissa cotto
March 1, 2012 at 5:38 pm
I have been with my husband since I was 14! We have 2 gorgeous boys! We will make 21 yrs together 11yrs married! It had its ups and downs. We learned that our marriage is a partnership for life.And while there may be outsiders placing opinions…its up to you to listen, learn and take the advice that applies to your marriage…ladies avoid the train your man advice!!! Respect him he’s not a dog! God bless you Mr. And Mrs.Fisher….your story brings me great joy.
Erick
March 1, 2012 at 4:32 pm
Trying to figure out when this article was written since Herbert Fisher died in 2011. (The article is probably from 2010).
http://goo.gl/TBLR0
http://goo.gl/D22if
Still, pretty good advice. Also, here: http://goo.gl/SVVLa
Judy
March 2, 2012 at 11:36 pm
Yes, when I clicked on the ‘source’ link at the bottom of the article, the page where it came from was dated Feb. 14, 2010.
Raymond
March 1, 2012 at 2:37 pm
Great article, but I find it disconcerting that an advertisement for a divorce lawyer would be interjected into the text of the interview. Talk about sending the wrong message!
Megan
March 1, 2012 at 1:11 pm
wonderful! Now if they would please share the secret to a healthy 101 and 104 years of living!
Jalan Robins
March 1, 2012 at 4:34 am
So very simple advice. Looking forward to meeting the right person and being able to put all of these tips into play. Thank you. God bless you for a longer, strong life!
Latoya
February 29, 2012 at 7:00 pm
I luv it…..I wanna b jus like dem
joy fields
February 29, 2012 at 6:45 pm
I think the most important thing they said and the real key to their 85 years of marriage was what they said last. “We are both Christians and believe in God. Marriage is a commitment to the Lord. We pray with and for each other everyday.” That right there is the real key to a happy marriage.
Alize
February 29, 2012 at 5:10 pm
This artitcle is way more than a good read. To see that love can last and stay strong for a LIFETME 86 YEARS.God blessed me with parents that were married for 48 yrs. and it was death that parted them.THANK YOU for sharing your LIFE and your LOVE with us and letting us know that God is the center of ALL.
Joanne
February 29, 2012 at 8:22 am
What an inspiration! I have 50 more years to go to reach your record!!! You both rock!
chit lascano
February 29, 2012 at 6:06 am
This couple is a living testimony that “what God has put together let no man put asunder” Truly, marriage is a commitment. Love,trust and should always be together and let communication open and putting God the center of the married life. We are on our 37th year and hoping we can reach that long..wow, too hard to beat!!
Donna Villanueva
February 29, 2012 at 4:58 am
Wow! I am so happy for this couple. Surely, dating tips coming from them really work and can keep a relationship strong.
Esther Luna
February 29, 2012 at 3:33 am
I rise up and call you blessed!
Anna
March 2, 2012 at 5:36 pm
That comment blessed me!
Sheridan W
February 28, 2012 at 10:09 pm
What a great testimony for keeping those marriage vows. Marriage is the difficult but most rewarding relationship on earth! The Lord has truly blessed them! We’re at 15 years, only 70 more to go!
latonyacarter
February 28, 2012 at 6:02 pm
What a wonderfuul story. My parents have been married 53 plus yrs. .I think that is wonderful myself. But 85 plus yrs. That is nobody but God. My husband and I have been married this September 4th makes 2 yrs. I just pray that we will make it that long or longer. Be blessed. Mr.and Mrs. Carter out of Greensboro, N.C. Thanks
Tewdrowos
February 28, 2012 at 12:08 am
I will make what they have said a practice in my life if I am ever married…GREAT ADVICE!
Donna Feazell
February 27, 2012 at 11:23 am
What a wonderful legacy. I would love to interview this couple for my show.
Becca
February 26, 2012 at 10:57 pm
Both of them are just precious. Wonderful, wonderful, wonderful.
pee
February 26, 2012 at 8:24 pm
It’s fabulous to see these two best friends who got married. Simply means that best friends in marriage rocks.
Jeroen
February 6, 2013 at 10:23 pm
Yep, if they’re best friends then they probably got along together pretty well.
Tere
February 26, 2012 at 10:11 am
It is easy to see why their relationship has lasted because they have put God first in their lives and they show respect and love for each other and pray for each other daily.
As they said, marriage is not a contest. God bless you both and may He give you many more years together. Abundant blessings.
Char
February 25, 2012 at 2:06 am
It blessed my soul to see such a beautiful couple…it was just icing on the cake to see that they were African American. So many negative images of African Americans…it’s wonderful to see something positive for a change. All of us youngsters can learn a lesson from our older generation…such WISDOM! God Bless them both!
Gail
February 24, 2012 at 6:23 pm
What a beautiful couple. Lord’s know I could not be the same person for 85 years, but they both found true love. You only find that once in a lifetime.
GOD BLESS THEM.
Jkeen
March 14, 2012 at 11:19 pm
I’m sure they aren’t the “same person” that they were when they were young, people always change. They emphasized 2 things that held them together.
1) Communication
2) Prayer for and with one another.
Any couple can stay together when both partners are willing to stick it out and seek the benefit of the other person.
Jay
February 24, 2012 at 4:11 pm
“If it’s not broken, don’t fix it,” where do they say that? Excuse me, but quoting someone or putting words in people mouth and not making it clear that this is your interpretation, is very annoying. MY INTERPRETATION of what I got out of their message is that old school love rocks! Keep God first in your life and he will see you through anything.
H Fields
February 24, 2012 at 2:40 pm
I enjoy reading about relationships that have lasted a long time. I try to learn from their experiences and suggestions. I feel that if they have found a way to make it through hard times and good times and they want to share the secret then why wouldn’t you try n learn from them…Thank you so much for sharing that wit us..
lou
February 24, 2012 at 1:08 pm
Thanks, You two and God bless you both.
LOUIS MURPHY
February 24, 2012 at 12:11 pm
Like they said if it’s not broken, don’t fix it. These two know better, and compared to today’s generation. The new generation, could learn from these two. Whereas these two have nothing to learn from our new generation.
Robbia
May 8, 2012 at 2:12 am
My husband and I have been married for 35 years, and I just want to add a couple of other things– Never go to bed mad at each other. Always try to resolve your differences before you go to sleep. Things always look better the next morning anyway. And forgive, forgive, forgive. Don’t sweat the little things.