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by Dr. Boyce Watkins
In this article, Dr. Boyce Watkins explains why the trial of former Penn State coach Jerry Sandusky is a reminder to parents that they should be careful about who they allow to come around their kids. The message is targeted primarily to single mothers who date men without knowing their motives or their s****l history.
Jerry Sandusky ran a youth charity and many of the kids in the charity were black. In the course of “mentoring” the kids, Sandusky molested quite a few of them. The case was eventually unearthed years later, but officials at Penn State University may be facing charges for covering up the s****l abuse for many years.
When I was a youth track coach a decade ago, I found that running with the kids everyday was like a fountain of youth. The experience transformed me for life, and was one of the most rewarding things I’ve ever done. The parents loved me, and I loved (most of) them. But I must confess years later that I look back and find myself shocked at how so many of these parents (especially single moms) trusted a grown man around their children.
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Dr. R. Northern, Jr., Ed.D.
June 16, 2012 at 11:54 pm
I do appreciate all of the comments on this matter. However, education and time are areas that parents must “lead” when rearing children. Fathers need to be allowed and encouraged to remain in the homes of their offspring. Dads just see this sickness of abusing our children better than a single-mother might. All ethnicities, socio-economics,religions are guilty of assaulting our children. If we enforce the laws to put to death-pedophiles, molesters and rapists this would assure a non-recitavist in that matter. Too many (80%)of fathers are not in homes and our cildren deserve this time to learn from their “protectors” men to keep all attackers at bay. If you make a seed with the man keep him for the co-parenting. If he doesn’t have “daddy” qualities then don’t give him the opportunity to procreate another him. Value family unity. Educate to safeguard from ignorance and spend time to know who your child fears. Neglect is our greatest abuse. GOD Knows!
Asar Nebankh
June 16, 2012 at 12:36 pm
Parents have to be careful about anyone they bring around their children. That is mothers AND fathers have to be careful. They have to be careful about MALES as well as FEMALES. There have been a plethora of female teachers guilty of s****l crimes with youngsters. And parents have to be PARTICULARLY careful about other YOUNGSTERS around their child or children.
Junie
June 15, 2012 at 10:18 pm
I agree with most of these comments, however, s****l abuse crosses all ethnic and social lines! The primary target for child molesters is CHURCH! Don’t bother responding to defend your church, I am a Christian and attend church also. But look at history, catholics among many many other religious groups. If you think Eddy Long was an isolated incident you are TRULY crazy! The church has been a refuge for parents to send thier children to be safe for generations, and molesters take full advantage of that. Stop using your church as a SOCIAL CLUB, take your child there, sit with them and LEAVE WITH THEM! I know women who allow a particular minister who has been accused repeatedly of molesting boys but never prosecuted to “hang out” with their teenage sons. When I questioned them they said that their kids are ‘PRAYED OVER AND ANNOINTED”! Another grown friend of mine confided that the deacon”s (yes I put an S on it) in his grandmothers church were given the green flag to take him home for a “sleep over” because they financialy took care of he and his grandmother , no one was allowed to speak on it. This man is up in age and has serious problems with what they did to him, sometimes being intimate with more than one at a time. He confided that it started so early in his life that it became normal and accepted by him. Do you have any idea how many men and women are too ashamed to admit that this happened AND that they conceded because it was all they new!
Pedophiles hunt in ALL arena’s, schools, neighbors and yes family members! We have all had that uncle that stared a little too long.
Mahoganyone
June 15, 2012 at 3:27 pm
It is not a problem limited to single mothers or those on welfare. I grew up in a two parent household and my mother trusted a neighborhood man to watch me as she attended school at night. He and others molested me for years.It is indeed a large scale problem but it is not a “class” problem. It is an indictment of society at large. Children are not valued in our society. There are strong moral problems within our society and though the welfare syndrome is itself problematic, pedophilia is not a welfare problem. We have to learn to protect our children at all costs. I also had a child as a teenager and was on welfare for a while but know I could not raise my son in that fashion. I attended college, obtained a meaningful and rewarding career and I protected my son with a vengeance.He is, today, a very productive man.
Tracy Owens
June 15, 2012 at 3:24 pm
Ladies be open to this article as you may blindly lead your children into danger.
“Love is Blind.”
Elizabeth
June 15, 2012 at 3:09 pm
Unfortunately to many young women becoming mothers today lack home training. Single mothers on welfare is now generational. The grandmother, the mother and now the daughter is procreating without benefit of education, family, husband or any moral structure.
Until we stop teen pregnancy in young black girls this problem will persist.
They have not been taught to protect their children and they lack the education, knowledge and common sense to know better…so sad!
theloneous
June 16, 2012 at 12:58 am
Elizabeth, I agree with you on most of the points you make, but teen pregnancy is at a 40 year low, for Blacks and every other ethnic group. And getting “welfare” benefits really isn’t much of an incentive anymore for having children out-of-wedlock for women of any age. But I would agree that lack of home training and low levels of education have wreaked havoc on Black families and communities. Our standards are so low for ourselves and our children that we’ll accept any behavior as normal or bearable. Until we stop tolerating ghetto behavior as ok then we’ll be stuck at the bottom of this society.