Ask Black America: Can Couples Be Happy with Women Being the Primary Breadwinners?

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For at least the last five years, the economy has drastically affected the income of men and women alike. Many people lost their jobs and their lives, as they knew them, were changed. There were some women who, when their husbands or significant others were not able to find jobs, stepped up and went to work if they were not working. Others went out and got second jobs to make ends meet.

The lack of jobs has affected both men and women, but for some couples, the men have been unable to find jobs, or have had to take pay cuts in order to go back to work.

In the Black community the unemployment rate is higher than the general population and for some couples, the women are the ones out working while the men are unable to find work. Even when both the man and woman in a couple are working, the women sometimes make more money than the men.

We asked the question, “Can Men and Women Be Happy Together with Women Being the Primary Breadwinners?” on our Facebook Page and the responses are as follows: ( Feel free to respond to the question yourself.)

“As a woman and a wife, that wouldn’t make me happy.”

 

“Why not? It’s only Bread. “

 

“No because women have been lied to since childhood about getting married to a man that can take care of you, so women have been set up by their parents and others who have mislead them.”

 

“uuuummmmhhhh!!!!! h**l NAW:/”

 

“A lot of men don’t say they have a problem with it, but I’ve met quite a few that were insecure about making less and not being able to afford certain things their mate can”

 

“You gotta support your family through the ups n downs regardless of the situation, if u love that man it wouldn’t matter, but men have pride issues too”

 

“I think eventually a womans resentment and/or a mans pride would cause issues in the relationship.”

 

“She can make more, But I’m still the KING in this house ….”

 

“Yes! The two shall become one!”

 

“Yes,with prayer daily. For better or worse.”

 

“Yes it can work if the foundation of the relationship is built on God and both the man and the woman understand, except and respect each other’s role. The woman making more money needs to understand that the man is head of the household. However, the man shouldn’t get comfortable with the woman making more because a man is to provide for his family. Men are the givers and women are the receivers. The Bible speaks about all of this so read the word know ya place.”

 

“Only if he’s at home with the kids or doing extra, like woman do, the cooking cleaning, laundry”

 

“Well…. From my experience No. women dont and wont do for men like men would do for them when they are the primary income earner. The thinking and socialization to aide the brutha is not there. Eventually. Psychologically she will view him with contempt and scorn for not being able to take care of himself and her even tho she only sees the need to take care of herself when shes on top. Eventually the brutha will look for a woman where he can feel like a man and where he can feel like he is taking care of Her him and any need that arises. A man wants to be a man and does not like feeling lesser than a man. So he will seek out that which gives him that standing.”

 

“It is too bad that far many so-called Black people DO NOT have a good UNDERSTANDING of the SYSTEM they are under in the western world especially…”We are “alienated” so we can serve aliens. Our alienated psychology shows that we are controlled from outside. This state of alienation is functional for European/Asian/Arab power.”-Dr. Amos Wilson”

 

“It’s possible but there will be arguments lol just make sure the love is genuine and You still allow a man to be a man!”

 

“As long as she buy’s me toys (nice cars, clothes etc…) its all good!”

 

“Sometimes you do what you have to do so the family can survive and leave your ego’s at the door”

 

It works for many families…especially with today’s economy…