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Nomalanga: Nene Leakes is smarter than we give her credit for

Nene Leakes has reportedly been speaking out about the bullying and fighting that goes on in the reality show, “Basketball Wives”. Leakes, a “wife”, herself in “the Real Housewives of Atlanta” has also been criticized about being too loud and opinionated. It seems that she knows the limit though, because her star seems to be shining very bright. In addition to her role as a “wife”, Leakes also has roles in ‘Glee’ and ‘The New Normal’. What I noticed about Nene’s comments about “Basketball wives is that she talks about how the women’s behavior can affect the future of their careers. Considering how well Nene’s career is going, I think she has earned some creditability to talk about what it takes to succeed in show business. I’m not saying I agree entirely with Nene’s conduct but I also believe she is much smarter than we give her credit for. Think about it; one of the challenges that I believe Oprah Winfrey is faced with with her struggling OWN Network is that although she strives to put on only “quality” programming, many say most of it is “boring”. There is a delicate balance between having enough action and drama to keep people interested and engaged and going too far, like Jerry Springer or even ‘Basketball Wives’. On one hand, Oprah keeps her programs decent and dignified but no one is watching and then on the other hand, people are watching shows like ‘Basketball Wives’ but they are disgusted by what they see. What I’m suggesting is that Nene has struck this balance and I believe she is well aware of it. She doesn’t try to act “nice” in front of the camera and come off as inauthentic and possibly boring but she also doesn’t get into fist fights when she has conflict with someone. So far, Nene is the only “wife” that Donald Trump has tapped to be on is reality show, ‘The Apprentice’. She is the highest paid “wife” on ‘The Real Housewives of Atlanta’ and she also has roles on two other major shows. I don’t believe that all this success has come Nene’s way by some stroke of luck. I think that Nene is a smart black woman who understands how show business works and while people are sitting around talking about her, she is working on ways to get paid! Read More »

Dr. Boyce: No One is Going to Feel Sorry for You About Racism

This is a note to parents, adults and anyone who cares anything about the future of the black community:  We’ve got to teach our kids how to get out there and hustle.  What I mean is that in this world, racism is going to always be an obstacle, but it can’t slow you down if you are a determined human being.  Also, we live in a dog-eat-dog world, where people are not going to feel sorry for you when you don’t get what you want. Most of us endure various forms of discrimination in the workplace.  We deal with people who don’t want to see us succeed and who are unwilling to give us opportunities.  But the fact is that we must still encourage ourselves and one another to push our kids to be the best that they can be.   If you are strong, focused and know how to go out there and get your own, then you don’t have to wait, hope and pray that someone else gives you an opportunity.  Real opportunities MUST BE TAKEN. So, the point is simple:  Laziness should have no place in your household.  I recommend that you let your kids know that people who don’t work do not deserve the benefits of hard work.  The same energy we put into exceling at basketball and football in the Pee Wee Leagues must translate into an equally ambitious desire to excel in Math, Science and all educational endeavors.  The same way that little Indian or Asian kid wins the national spelling bee because his parents had him learning three languages by the age of five, we should also be pushing our kids in an equally fanatical way. To the victors go the spoils, and we must train our kids to be eerily competitive. The video below makes my point: Read More »

The Truth Is…Not All Pastors are God’s Pastors, Some are Just Fools

  The Truth is….Not all pastors are God’s pastors, some are just fools Jesus called them together and said, “You know that the rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials exercise authority over them. Not so with you. Instead, whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant,  and whoever wants to be first must be your slave— just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.” Matt 20:25-28 It is amazing to me how quickly some pastors ignore one command of God and gravitate to another such as Hebrews 13:17 (“ Obey your leaders and submit to their authority”). They love the words obey and submit but yet reject the word of service to Christ and others.  They love having the title of pastor but not wanting the assigned responsibility of Godly leadership and service. The ignorant love quoting “Do not touch my anointed ones; do my prophets no harm” found in 1 chronicles 16:22. But the anointed ones spoken about are kings and priests, and not specifically about a pastor. The Apostle Peter called all born again believers priests of God. If you have received the gift of the Holy Spirit, you too have an anointing, not just the preacher. There have been many people wounded by the ignorance, arrogance and disobedience of church leadership. However, there is a way to prevent this, know what the word of God instruct and hold leadership accountable; not accountable to you but to God’s word. If you haven’t learned what the word of God states, than you will be misguided and possibly wounded. Do people really look for the fruit of the spirit when selecting church leadership; Galatians 5:22-23 states (“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,  gentleness and self–control.” ) or do they select the leaders based on what their itching ears want to hear? How many pastors have been chosen by the qualifications found listed in 1 Timothy 3:1-7? Just a reminder of what Paul told the Corinthians “For such men are false apostles, deceitful workmen, masquerading as apostles of Christ .  And no wonder, for Satan himself masquerades as an angel of light . It is not surprising, then, if his servants masquerade as servants of righteousness .” And in Titus 1:16 “They claim to know God, but by their actions they deny him. ..” Psalms 14:1 states, “The fool says in his heart, “There is no God.”  Don’t let a fool lead you into being a fool, for there is a God who will hold everyone accountable. Put your faith in Christ and not men.  All people make mistakes that are to be forgiven. But some intentionally mislead for their own benefit; there is a difference In Philippians 2:19-21 we find Paul stating, “I hope in the Lord Jesus to send Timothy to you soon, that I also may be cheered when I receive news about you. I have no one else like him, who takes a genuine interest in your welfare. For everyone looks out for his own interests , not those of Jesus Christ. ” Who are you following, God’s obedient pastor or Satan’s fool? Prayer:  Thank You Lord for your word which leads us into all truth, you have given us your Holy Spirit and your word to discern between the true and the false, prophet Pastors, teachers and followers of Jesus Christ.  Give us the faith to choose the truth.   Read More »

Stephanie Humphrey: Ever Have Trouble Finding Good Apps? Well, Check This Out

You ever wonder how to find good apps?  With all the stuff out there in the tech world, it can be difficult to find the apps that work for your lifestyle.  Personally, I am always looking for new things to put on my phone, but there are times when the options seem entirely too vast and confusing. Well, look no further for your technology needs.  Tech Life expert Stephanie Humphrey presents an app that allows you to find things to put on your phone based on your interests.  Most of us spend our time looking all over to find good apps for our phones when we’re on the go, and Stephanie seems to have a great solution. You’ll love the video, check it out:   Read More »

Yvette Carnell: Should the “Puff Puff Pass President” be Giving Black People Advice on How to Earn Success?

While many pundits have focused on President Obama’s gun violence remarks at a gathering for the National Urban League in New Orleans, I largely ignored those comments because, well, they’re pretty meaningless. Obama isn’t going to do anything to limit the sale of 6,000 rounds of ammo, so there’s really no need for me to pay him much attention. But ... Read More »

Nomalanga Talks about the College Athlete Who Was Convicted of Rape

I just read the story of the young Black man from Oklahoma State University who was convicted of rape . The story has hit me like a tonne of bricks because I know that it was all very unnecessary. The minute that I read the sorry, hot tears flushed down my face because I realize the many levels on which this is a tragedy. My main goal when I am in contact with young college-age women( and men) is to help them make decisions that result in them accomplishing their career and life goals. So, in looking at a situation such as this one, my first thought is what were the series of decisions that the young men and women made that led to this tragedy. First of all, the question that I have is, was he intoxicated? Were the young women also intoxicated? If so, that is the fist thing that everyone involved could have done differently. A critical question that always comes up in rape cases is: did the woman who claims to have been sexually assaulted say “NO” ?. Unfortunately for this young man, prosecutors are saying that his accusers repeatedly told him “no”. So here is another clear action to avoid this kind of horror story: If you hear the word “no”, stop everything that you’re doing- immediately! When talking to young women, I always make it clear that they have the right to say “No”, at anytime during an interaction with a young man if they feel uncomfortable. There is no such thing as it being “too late” to say “No”. Even if she had said, “yes” to his advances in the beginning, she has the right to change her mind. This is why I say that if a young man is interacting with a young woman, if at any point he hears her saying “no”, it is critically important to stop everything immediately and just to be safe, it is wise to remove himself from the situation altogether. An additional action that he can even take is to tell a trusted adult about the incident so that he is able to asses what happened better and take pr-emptive action if need be. Mentors, fathers and even older brothers are good examples of trusted adults. In the interest of full disclosure, I will say that I have an adorable three year old son who captured my heart from the day he was born so that explains my very emotional reaction to this story. I immediately put myself in the shoes of this young man’s mother and that broke my heart. I also have seen too many stories of young men who have been falsely accused and had their lives ruined by those accusations. I also know that a young man walking the streets can be a moving target for law enforcement in many cities. Even knowing everything that I know about how young Black men can be wrongly targeted, it is important to acknowledge that maybe this young man is guilty. If he had such a low level of respect for women that he thought it was okay to grope and sexually harass young women, then I am disappointed and I imagine so are those people who love him and care about him. Sadly, if you randomly listen to a rap song, then this behavior should not come as a surprise-women are just a bunch of b*tches and “hoes”-right? Obviously, asking if all women are b*tches and “hoes” is not a real question but we have to face the reality that if that is what many young men are exposed to day in and day out, there is a level of “education” that is going on through these repetitive messages. Sadly, the results can be just what we are seeing; a young man who thinks that he can disrespect women and not pause to think about the consequences. So now that this young man has been convicted-what now? Well, if he was falsely accused, then we have to stand by him and do our part to redeem his good name. Even if he was guilty, we still have to do our part to speak up if he is sentenced unfairly, which is very likely. Even after all the talk dies down about this particular young man, Darrell Williams, there needs to be some serious dialogue about how our thinking and our way of life is creating these tragedies over and over ….and over. Changes need to happen and they need to happen sooner rather than later. Read More »

How to Overcome Procrastination in the Workplace

Everyone has one form of procrastination or another. The worst place for procrastination to happen is easily the workplace. With several people depending on one person to get something done, procrastination slows down the process as a whole and delays your company’s ability to make good on certain deliverables in the promised amount of time Read More »

Hair and Health: Optimizing Your Hair from the Root

By Loo of  Hair and Health In the world of black hair care, optimal hair growth has become synonymous with the application of growth aids and the popping of supplements. The reality is that it normally does not require such extremes. In many cases, achieving optimal hair growth can be as simple as following the steps below: 1. Maintain a clean scalp. After genetics and diet, maintaining a clean scalp is probably the next important factor in achieving your maximum hair growth potential. A filthy scalp is more prone to fungal and bacterial infections that may adversely affect the follicle — the area where hair growth begins. Pollutants, product buildup, sweat, and dead skin cells can contribute to the filth. A regular wash routine will help to remove these items from the scalp. 2. See a doctor regularly. Certain medical conditions can be the root of slow hair growth, but you may not know for certain until you visit a doctor. Some conditions include iron deficiency anemia, folic acid deficiency anemia, vitamin B-12 deficiency anemia, hypothyroidism, and different forms of alopecia. Mild forms of these conditions can go unnoticed and undiagnosed, yet affect the hair. Stay on top of your annual physicals and doctor visits! 3. Exercise regularly. It is a big belief of mine that regular exercise helps with optimal hair growth. After all, exercise increases blood circulation in certain sections of the body, including the scalp. Increased blood circulation in this region may allow for more nutrients to reach the follicles. The more these follicles are fed, the more they flourish. 4. Massage with an essential oil and carrier oil. DISCLAIMER: Essential oils are very potent. Please consult your doctor before using them, especially if you are pregnant, breast feeding, or have a medical condition. The speculated cause of alopecia areata is an attack on the hair cells by the immune system. Some believe that stress may aggravate the condition. According to the results of one study, daily massaging of the scalp with an essential oil mixture proved effective in treating alopecia areata when compared to massaging with carrier oils alone. The reason for the improvement in hair growth is unclear; perhaps aromatherapy is beneficial in reducing stress? For the time being, aromatherapy as a hair loss treatment remains a debatable topic in the research community. It couldn’t hurt, however, to incorporate it into your hair care regimen and perform your own personal study (assuming you’ve heeded the disclaimer).   5. Drink your water. Water carries necessary nutrients to various parts of the body – including the follicles. Without it, achieving optimal hair growth is next to impossible. Be sure your body is absorbing sufficient water, whether via fruits and vegetables or the actual drinking of water. 6. Eat hair foods. Because healthy, growing hair starts from within, a diet containing hair foods is key. According to doctors on WebMD, these foods include salmon, nuts, poultry, beans, and eggs for protein; dark green vegetables for vitamins A and C; whole grains for zinc, iron, and B vitamins; and carrots for beta carotene, just to name a few. Many of us worry about the external (i.e., what products to apply to our hair) and forget about the internal (i.e., what to eat for our hair). No matter what topical product we use, if we are not on our “A” game on the inside, we will not achieve optimal hair growth on the outside. 7. Get adequate sleep. Sleep is an opportunity for the body to recuperate from a day’s worth of activities and stress. Without this resting process, our bodies — including our hair — may suffer. According to some researchers, “losing sleep for even part of one night can trigger the key cellular pathway that produces tissue-damaging inflammation.” In other words, insufficient sleep can be detrimental to our health. What does this mean for hair growth? Well, healthy growing hair begins with a healthy lifestyle, and adequate sleep is a part of that lifestyle. For your hair to reach its optimal growing potential, be sure to get the necessary sleep! 8. Take your multivitamins. Did you know that canned and frozen vegetables and fruits contain fewer vitamins than fresh ones? Did you know that boiled, steamed, and microwaved vegetables contain fewer nutrients than raw ones? The same is true for certain meats, dairy products, etc. Therefore, it is possible that some of us are not absorbing sufficient nutrients from the “healthy” foods we do eat. With that being said, be sure to purchase and prepare your food for optimal nutrient absorption, or at the very least, invest in a good multi-vitamin to make up for that slack. Source Read More »

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